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HOW TO CHOOSE AN ABUSIVE MATE
Married or not married, this article is for you.
If you are in a serious
relationship or thinking of one, you might want to consider this article.
Choosing an abusive mate
is not an accident!
Being in love is no reason to get married! Being out of love is no reason to get divorced.
Failing Relationship---Your Fault
If it is your fault, you can fix it. Have you built your relationship on sinking sand?
Relationships fail because you built them on false premises. And, you can change
them.
I) False Premise “We are so compatible that we never fight.” “In our family, no
one raises their voice in anger.”
ANGER For Better or For Worse
There has been much debate over whether the feelings of
anger is beneficial or harmful.
Many non-helpful remedies have been offered by those who
see anger as destructive. You will often hear statements such as:
• Try counting to ten.
• Think before you speak.
• Nice girls don’t get angry; pretty is as pretty does.
• Stay away from people who make you mad.
• You don’t hate your sister; you love your sister.
• You’re not angry; you’re just upset.
Guilt, the Destroyer of Lives
Have you ever lost your temper and then felt guilty? Losing your temper is not a problem. It is
a symptom of someone or something not living up to your expectations. Guilt is an option.
What do you believe about guilt?
True or False: "The ability to feel guilt is what keeps people in line. Without guilt,
people would do whatever they wanted: rape, pillage, burn, etc.
Or
True or False: Guilt is a destructive emotion and is not helpful. For example, in the
court system, nobody wants the defendant to feel guilty.
MAKING PEACE WITH ANGER,
Your Own and Others Too
Many people find that they are not capable of making peace with anger in
any form, whether it is in someone else, or themselves. These people
believe that anger is unacceptable in any way that they recognize.
Many people will not accept anger in themselves and, therefore, do not
recognize it when they experience anger.
Anger can come in many disguises, such as silence! "What is the matter?"
NOTHING! (That did not sound like nothing.)
Anger can also come out as
Anger is not a problem, it is how you express your anger that will put you in jail.
Clear Your Life of Stress and Anxiety
It is not an easy thing to do.
You must train yourself to think in certain kinky ways. But, with a little practice,
you will be able to create not only stress and anxiety in your life, but you can add
to that a feeling of being overwhelmed and depressed.
The famous therapist, Albert Ellis MD, suggests the following ways of
thinking as the best ways to create an unhappy life.
• Black-White thinking: this is where you put everything in boxes of good
or bad, right or ....
Bully-Proof Yourself
Bullying is wrong. No one wants to be bullied. No one wants their children
to be bullied. Yet bullying happens at work, at school and on the Internet.
Bullying happens to children and adults alike.
For most people being bullied, there are basically only three responses, to
become passive and absorb the blows, to freeze, or to fight back. These
approaches do not work very well.
You can fight back against the bully can be done in two ways. ..
Five things you don't know about being a good lover
Most women and men are lousy lovers. And, they do not know it! Did sex education that you receive from your parents and school tell you how to have a good sex life?
What you did not get!
The vagina is not a sexual organ. Neither is your mouth, tongue, or hand sexual organs.
Men's and women's sexual organs come in three sizes.
PowerPoints Presentations
I have done hundreds of presentations to schools, churches, and public and private agencies. You have my permission to use my PowerPoint outlines.
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E.M.F.
*** Keys to Success
EMF is the key to understanding how you are designed to work psychologically.
The meanings you put to words, events in your life, your thinking, determine what you feel.
Based on the feelings that you are having, you choose your behaviors. “You do not react to people, events, or words, but to the meanings that you put to them.”
How you react to a bear is determined by what you believe about that bear. Do you see it as a pet or as a wild animal?
Anger for Good or for Bad
Over the years, anger has gotten a bad rap. Many people see anger as a destructive, malevolent, evil force in our lives.
Anger is not the bad rap that it has gotten a bad rap, in fact, the opposite of love is not hate (which is intense anger). It is indifference, not caring. Have you noticed that you get the angriest most at the people you love the most?
No one has ever gone to jail for being angry. It is how you express your anger that can get you put in jail.
Depression, Anger &
Anxiety
Prescriptions for Depression and Anxiety are higher than any other psychiatric medication.
Sigmund Freud looked at depression as a symptom. “Depression is anger turned inward.” From Freud’s time to our present day, anger has been a significant problem.
Anxiety is the difference between here and now and someplace in the future. Anxiety cannot be about the past, nor can it be about the present.
PTSD
Using Psychodrama and Visualization As Exposure Tools With Adults and Children
I presented this PowerPoint presentation at a national Anxiety Convention in 2010 in Baltimore, Maryland.
It contained the therapeutic concept and interventions for working with PTSD, anger, and panic disorder.
I used the techniques in my weekly Huge Group Therapy, including the role playing, and psychodrama.